qui aime bien châtie bien

== French == === Alternative forms === qui aime bien, châtie bien === Etymology === Calque of Latin qui bene amat, bene castigat. === Pronunciation === IPA(key): /ki ɛm bjɛ̃ ʃa.ti bjɛ̃/ ~ /ki ɛm bjɛ̃ ʃɑ.ti bjɛ̃/ === Proverb === qui aime bien châtie bien you've got to be cruel to be kind; spare the rod and spoil the child (one should show tough love) (loosely) me poking fun at you is proof that I like you